Fear has a funny way of showing up just when life is asking more of us. It whispers when you think about applying for that new job. It tightens its grip when you consider leaving a relationship that no longer serves you. It gets loud when you imagine starting over—whether that’s a new business, a new city, or a completely new chapter. And more often than not, fear wins. But why? At its core, fear isn’t the enemy. It’s protection. Fear is designed to keep you safe. Safe from f

The Messy, Beautiful Truth About Starting Over   Let me be real with you. I got laid off over a year ago. And I felt ALL  of it — the shock, the embarrassment, the “What do I do now?” I polished my resume. I interviewed. And interviewed. And interviewed.  I was trying to make a career shift, leaning into my transferable skills, betting on everything I knew I could bring to the table. Corporate didn't see it. Everyone around me kept saying, “You’re so skilled. Something will h

My daughter is struggling with high anxiety and low confidence right now. In her first week of school: Someone backed into her car and left without a note, leaving a big dent. A few days later, she pulled forward to avoid another car backing into her—and ended up bumping a car pulling in next to her. Two small fender benders in one week, and her driving confidence is shot. Inside her head the narrative sounds like: “I’m a horrible driver. I shouldn’t even be on the road. I’m

I’ve newly started donating my plasma. There's something deeply satisfying about spending an hour giving back, knowing that my plasma will help create lifesaving therapies for people who desperately need them. Plus, I get an uninterrupted hour to catch up on Netflix or listen to music! When I left today’s appoint, I asked about a scheduled surgery for cubital tunnel release in my right elbow, "How long do I need to wait before I can donate plasma again?" The answer caught me

"Real self-discipline is difficult for ordinary people, most people would rather be comfortable than be the best." This sentence appeared in my 16-year-old son's soccer player agreement. Not some motivational poster hanging in a gym—buried in a sports contract that most families probably just croll to the bottom of and sign without much thought. Yet it's essentially asking teenagers and parents to commit to a philosophy that most adults struggle with daily! How many players a

No, not the ones that you're thinking of.... I'm talking about the voices that guide us. Your INNER voice. Your EMOTIONAL voice. Your LOGICAL voice. Your PROTECTOR voice. We have so many guiding us... How do you know which one to listen to? I had my own coaching session today (I can't very well coach you if I don't sit in your shoes!) and the question I am wrestling with is one where many voices are speaking to me. Unfortunately, or maybe fortunately, the loudest one thus far

Life is full of ups and downs. One moment, we might feel joyful, and the next, we may face a wave of sadness. Sometimes, these emotions—these "big emotions"—seem out of proportion to what triggered them. If you’ve ever burst into tears over a small comment or felt irrationally angry at a minor inconvenience, this post is for you. A key factor behind these intense feelings could be unprocessed trauma. Let’s explore how big emotions and trauma intertwine, and provide practical